“Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a [self-confident] fool than for him.” – Proverbs 29:20 (AMP)
“It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt.”
Most “fools” rush to say something prior to weighing, or pondering what they are about to say. If you notice, the people who have the most to say are typically the ones running around, gossiping or spewing useless chatter and is a clear example of the above proverb. It’s the “shoot, ready, aim” theory. We should all stop to reflect how are words may impact not only ourselves but those around us. And if you are anything like me, sometimes it is better to take a step back, breath and really think through what you are about to say. Sometimes a message can have a greater and even deeper impact when you’re not shooting something off from the hip….so to speak.
So how are we to maintain “self-control” over our mouths? Well the truth of the matter is we can’t. The Message Bible has the following;
“This is scary: You can tame a tiger, but you can’t tame a tongue—it’s never been done. The tongue runs wild, a wanton killer. With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image. Curses and blessings out of the same mouth!” – James 3: 7-8
Again, WE CAN’T! But as I love to say “He Can!!!” God has delivered unto us His Spirit. With this gift comes the ability to do and achieve the impossible. One of those would be the taming of our tongues. Have you ever been in a situation where you look back and think “Man I don’t know how I was able to control myself” Well I have many a time. I have found more and more as I grow an even greater ability to zip my lip before going down a path of sheer destruction. Funny enough I was recently told by someone that a colleague of mine thought that one of my greatest attributes was my ability for discernment in situations. I thought to myself “me?????”
God is pretty funny. And for those who don’t think God has a sense of humor need only look at the many men and women He has used throughout time. God will take what life has thrown away as useless and turn them into legends! Each and every one of us that God uses are legends with legacies to share. That’s right you and me. But as Uncle Ben stated in Spiderman “With great power comes great responsibility” and the type of “legend and legacy” we chose to leave behind is still up to us. God provides us gifts. Some gifts are passed on to us at birth and some are delivered by blessing of His Spirit at baptism. God wants to help us help each other. We are placed on this earth to help one another not to inflict pain and devastation.
As with any parent God wants to see His children grow in love for Him and each other. No parent wishes to see their children to grow up hating and despising one another. I know one of my biggest fears as a parent is to watch my beautiful girls (now 2 and 4) grow apart, not speaking and caring less if the other one fell of the planet. Nurturing parents will help their children to remain close and grow in greater love for each others as well as others. But it is still up to the individual child to take on the characteristics of their upbringing.
I feel so very blessed each and every day to have the perfect example of love in my relationship with our Heavenly Father. He guides and teaches us what is truly important in life to and take into account each word we speak. Be it for destruction or for building up.
I know that each day is a challenge. A challenge to choose words of life and love. Even as recent as last night I found the words of pain and hurt come flying out of my mouth. As I was speaking though I felt a very strong pull that allowed me to quickly zip my lip before I did anymore damage. I did some praying and came back and apologized to the point of my rant. I wasn’t able to muster up telling the person face to face, as I was still very upset, but I at least sent it as a message of apology (never go to bed still angry). We often think why even bother if you can’t do the perfect thing, but you know even just getting out the message and letting the person know that you are still hurting but that you are sorry for your behavior goes a long way in healing.
As I said, for me some days are easier than others but thank God for His Holy Spirit and its ability to help us do and achieve the impossible.
Be Forever Blessed,